Why Can’t I Ask For Help?

I’m hyper-independent.

I realised this early into my 20s when my boyfriend said “It would be really nice to be needed by you sometimes.”

When I’m twenty-something, ambitious and confident, this might be a compliment in my warped book.

When I’m thirty-something, ambitious, confident, a parent and business owner, I realise it’s a hindrance.

Asking for help is a sign of knowing I need support to be the best version of me and my projects. It’s knowing that others are better than me at certain things, and simply accepting that it’s not my responsibility to do everything. The latter is the harder pill to swallow.

I’ve been programmed to think I must do the majority so as to not be a nuisance, or bother people, or be a drain.

How can I unpick this to work brilliantly with others to achieve great stuff together?

One thing I’ll do first is give more consideration to others’ goals and ambitions, and see how we can achieve our respective ones, together.

BCx

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